Love's Practice: The Path Back to You
Therapeutic Wisdom for Women Healing From Complex Families
Love's Practice is my newsletter: empowerment letters to your younger self, sharing the therapeutic knowledge and personal wisdom I wish I'd known earlier in my journey.
Written in my voice—Big Sister with licensed therapy experience—looking out for you with warmth and wisdom.
Permission-Giving Insights That Make You Think "Damn, That's a Good Point"
Love's Practice blends professional therapeutic expertise with personal, relatable storytelling. Clinical insights without clinical jargon. Research-backed (ACT, CBT, Attachment Theory, Self-Compassion) but written in language that actually makes sense.
I write about:
Self-love foundations • Relationship dynamics • Cultural healing (immigrant family pressures, perfectionism, "Good Girl" training) • Breaking generational patterns • Practical therapeutic tools for daily life
Topics I explore: Feeling like your authentic self is "too much" • Earning worth through achievement instead of just existing • People-pleasing disguised as love • Breaking generational patterns while honoring family • Navigating relationships while healing from past conditioning
Who this is for:
If you're a woman from a complex family learning to prioritize yourself—especially if you're high-achieving, healing from perfectionism and people-pleasing, and seeking authenticity over performance—these letters are for you.
The goal? Grounding clarity. Permission to be human. Tools you can actually use.
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When Disappointment Becomes Data (Not Devastation)
Did everything right and it still didn't work? That's not failure—that's your system working. Here's how to turn dating disappointment into valuable data.
Boundaries, Standards, and Expectations: Building Your Dating Framework
Confused about boundaries vs. standards vs. expectations? Here's the practical framework you need for dating without burnout, disappointment, or losing yourself.
Your Self-Worth Isn't Up for Negotiation
Stop auditioning for love. Your needs aren't negotiable just because you're dating. Here's how to assess compatibility from a place of knowing your value.
The Honesty That Dating Requires (And Why It Feels So Scary)
Afraid being yourself will scare people away? Your authentic self isn't 'too much'—it's the perfect filter for finding real love. Here's why honesty in dating matters.
Self-Love and Its Compassion Won't Make You Lazy
Worried self-compassion will make you lazy? The truth is the opposite: treating yourself with kindness fuels sustainable drive. Here's why criticism exhausts you.
Self-Love Is Not Something You Earn
Tired of linking your worth to achievements? Your self-worth isn't earned through performance—it's your birthright. Here's how to break free from the earning trap.
Self-Love Is Not Narcissism and Definitely Not Selfish
Worried self-love will make you selfish? The truth is the opposite: authentic self-love makes you more generous, not less. Here's why—and how to practice it.
Why Self-Love Feels Impossible (And It's Not Your Fault)
Struggling with self-love isn't your failure—it's because healthy love was never modeled for you. Here's why it feels so hard and how to begin healing.
Welcome to Love's Practice
After 10 years as a therapist, here's what I know: people want love, but what they actually need is self-love. That's why Love's Practice exists