You've Spent Years Taking Care of Everyone Else.
Now It's Time to Learn How to Love Yourself.
Meet The Self-Love Therapist for Adult Daughters of Complex Families
Hi! I'm Akilah, LMFT — and I believe that learning to love yourself is the most radical act of healing when you come from a complex family.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over a decade of experience, I've discovered that beneath every struggle adult daughters face — the overthinking, people-pleasing, boundary issues, relationship patterns — lies one foundational challenge: we were never taught how to love ourselves.
When you grow up being the caregiver, the responsible one, or the family fixer, self-love isn't just missing from your toolkit — it feels selfish, impossible, or even dangerous. But here's what I've learned: you can't heal what you won't love.
That's why I've dedicated my practice to something revolutionary: teaching adult daughters from complex families how to develop genuine, sustainable self-love that transforms everything else.
From Relationship Expert to Self-Love Specialist
My career has taken me through many areas of therapy — from supporting individuals with self-esteem and sexuality, to helping couples enhance communication and intimacy. Each experience taught me something valuable, but one pattern kept emerging: the women who struggled most in relationships were the ones who had never learned to have a loving relationship with themselves.
I realized that traditional therapy often focuses on symptoms — anxiety, depression, relationship issues — without addressing the root: the absence of self-love that complex family dynamics create. That's when everything clicked.
Now, as The Self-Love Therapist, I help adult daughters of complex families do the foundational work that makes everything else possible.
Self-Love Therapy: More Than Traditional Talk Therapy
If you're an adult daughter of a complex family, you might find yourself:
🧠 Mentally Exhausted — Your inner critic never stops, and self-love feels impossible or selfish
💔 Emotionally Overwhelmed — You feel responsible for everyone else's emotions while ignoring your own needs
😞 Disconnected from Yourself — Years of caretaking left you unsure of who you are beneath all those roles
🛑 Stuck in Old Patterns — You know what's wrong but can't seem to love yourself enough to change it
😔 Struggling with Self-Worth — No matter what you achieve, that voice says you're not good enough
🚫 Boundary Challenges — Setting limits feels mean because you were taught to put others first
Sound familiar? You're not broken. You just never learned the self-love your family couldn't teach.
Together, We'll Work On:
🌱 Identifying Your Self-Love Blocks: Understanding how your family dynamics created barriers to self-compassion
💝 Developing Authentic Self-Love: Learning practical self-love skills that feel genuine, not fake
🛡️ Breaking People-Pleasing Patterns: Setting boundaries without guilt through radical self-acceptance
🔄 Healing Generational Patterns: Stopping harmful cycles before you pass them on
🎯 Building Unshakeable Self-Trust: Learning to trust your own judgment and honor your needs
💪 Creating Sustainable Change: Making self-love a daily practice, not just a therapy goal
This isn't about positive affirmations or surface-level self-care. This is deep, transformational work that changes how you see and treat yourself forever.
Investment in Your Self-Love Journey
Great News: I now accept Aetna and Blue Cross Blue Shield insurance to make self-love therapy more accessible.
Session Options:
With Aetna, AmeriHealth, or BCBS Insurance: Typically $20-40 copay per 50-minute session
Out-of-Network Benefits: $130 per session with detailed superbills for maximum reimbursement
Private Pay: $130 per 50-minute session (sliding scale available for limited spots)
Why Many Clients Choose Private Pay as a Therapy Investment:
More Privacy: Your self-love journey stays between us — no insurance company involvement in your treatment decisions
Personalized Care: Sessions guided entirely by your self-love goals, not insurance restrictions
Flexible Approach: We work at your pace, focusing on what you need most for genuine self-love development
Long-term Value: The self-love skills you learn transform every area of your life permanently
Don't let financial concerns stop you from learning to love yourself. Let's find an option that works for your situation.
Online Self-Love Therapy: Healing from Home
I provide individual self-love therapy online for adult daughters throughout Pennsylvania, New Jersey, and Washington, D.C.
Online therapy offers unique benefits for self-love work:
Comfort and Safety: Learn self-love skills in your own safe space
Privacy: No waiting rooms or potential encounters with people you know
Convenience: No commute means more energy for your self-love journey
Consistency: Weather, traffic, or life stress won't interrupt your healing
All you need is a private space, reliable internet, and the courage to finally put yourself first.
Ready to Learn What Self-Love Actually Feels Like?
You've spent your whole life loving others. You're incredibly good at it. You can sense what others need, offer comfort, provide support, and show up consistently.
Now imagine directing even half of that love toward yourself.
What would change if you spoke to yourself with the same compassion you show others? What would be possible if you trusted yourself as much as others trust you? How would your life transform if self-love felt as natural as caring for everyone else?
You don't have to imagine it. You can live it.
Your next step is simple: Schedule your free consultation and discover what self-love therapy can do for you.
Because you can't heal what you won't love — and you deserve to love yourself fiercely.
